Society is a tricky game. Not hateful and immature like politics, but it requires a hefty amount of tact and prudence. I can only begin to see how people who actually take the time to think about it would consider it necessary. The concept of being sociable is planted into our minds at a very early age and only people who are bad at playing deem it unnecessary, but that's just because they don't like losing. I'm not talking about being sociably acceptable and practicing a sufficent amount of hygene, that should just come semi-naturally and be something everyone does for the sake of everyone else whether socializing or not. Seriously, when you sit at the back of the bus, I can smell you from the front, even when you don't say anything to anyone. Take a shower.
I just felt my heart beating on the left side of my body and I freaked out. I could've swore that little guy was on the other side of me...but I digress.
What was I saying? Oh right, society. In my endeavours to become more sociable [in accordance with my New Year's resolutions], I've found that there are a fair number of hoops to jump through in order to gain people's friendship or even pass an initial broad categorization into either 'freak' or 'okay-sort-of-person'. There's no formula for winning everyone over; different people have different prefrence in the sort of folk they will allow themselves or prefer to associate with. Something that earns you brownie points with one individual, might be the last straw with another individual, putting you in their 'freak' bin with that guy that doesn't shower.Everyone can relate to everyone, even if it's something as simple as "Hey, you need food and nourishment to stay alive? ME TOO!" but how do you find things that you have in common? Well that's easy! First and foremost, you want to study your target. There are lots of things you can learn about an individual from simply hiding in the bushes and watching him or her, or even following your target home and rummaging through their garbage, although I wouldn't suggest either of these because those get you put in the 'psycho' bin automatically.
No, but seriously, before talking to an individual examine them (not in a noticable way, that's socially unacceptable for some reason). You can tell a lot about a person from the way they dress, the way they carry themselves, and if you can, artfully eavesdrop a conversation that they're actively a part of and see if you can't pull from it any common interests between you two. The more unsuspicious eavesdropping, the more you have to work with.
How did this turn into what it turned into? That's not what I initially meant to do. What has it turned into? A how-to on being social? No. Changing that now.
The point I was trying to come to, is that I sometimes find myself frustrated with the fact that I can't approach an individual and say "You seem interesting, I'd like to spend more time with you." without it seeming like a pickup line, especially when I'm talking to a dude. When I would like it to sound like a pickup line, it's just a little too anylitical for my style...maybe...
What's the point I'm trying to get across? What am I trying to say? I usually ask myself these questions after writing, but moreso this time than usual...
<== (Halp me get exposure plzkthx.)
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